Stress Release (Fast)- Anxiety Reduction Technique (Anxiety Skills #19)

Give me two minutes and I'll show you something about stress.

so stress is the physical aspect of anxiety, the fear emotion. Stress is how anxiety shows up

in our bodies. It comes with things like an increased heart rate, shallow

breathing, muscle tension, stomach problems and headaches. So take a second

right now and check your back and shoulders do you feel any tension there?

Odds are good that you do so go ahead and relax. No really, relax. Relax! Now for

most of you this did not work it most likely actually made things worse so now

you may be feeling stressed out about feeling stressed out this is the paradox

of emotions the more we try to make them go away the more we magnify them but all

is not lost that does not mean that we are powerless over our emotions we just

have to go in the back door sometimes so try this instead notice an area of your

body that's feeling tense it may be your shoulders or your face or

your back or your hands now I'm going to ask you to lean into that tension so

with the shoulders example I want you to try to exaggerate that tension pull them

up hard and tight around your ears clench and harden those muscles really

feel those muscles tighten and hold it for five seconds it helps if you scrunch

your face okay now soften those muscles breathe out

let's do it one more time tense tighten. Now check in with your

shoulders. For most people this helps them soften and relax those muscles in a

way that they weren't able to do by just trying to relax. And that's the curious

thing with emotions they don't respond well to being dismissed ignored or

avoided. Often they're just asking to be noticed or acknowledged it's like our

stress is saying "hey just notice me for a second and then I'll move on" but when

we are constantly trying to keep our emotions at arm's length our emotions

act more like a toddler saying" Mom mom mom mom!" "what?" and when you finally give them your

attention they say "I went potty on the potty" And you say "Oh good job you're the best" and the kid moves on

now if we really want to have choice with our emotions we have to be willing

to spend a second and lean into them. Comment below what are the emotions

you're most afraid to sit with for a second . Thanks for watching and take care!

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