what is that one simple change in your
life that gave incredibly great results
realizing I'm never going to be in the
mood to do anything I would literally
live the life of a cat if left to my own
instincts and someone would feed me
getting things done is ignoring my
instincts and getting out of my mind
activate yourself , yes actively
deciding to make myself do things go for
a walk go to the gym call up a friend
has made a huge change in my life
because otherwise I would just surf read
it and play video games all day
yesterday I made plans with a co-worker
to go to the gym after work today
this morning I spent 30 minutes trying
to come up with a reason not to go
before deciding to bite the bullet and
go I'm pretty pleased with myself sleep
more used to sleep for five hours a
night couldn't concentrate exhausted my
cycle was messed up three months between
and I was sick all the time
now I get seven eight hours a night I
feel so much better I get seven eight
hours of sleep most nights and I'm still
exhausted throughout the day I don't
know what's up I was the same way woke
up tired not focused
I could sleep it in a time all day
almost fell asleep driving every day I
got a new mattress a week ago and so far
so good reading before bed instead of
watching Netflix fell asleep quicker
woke up feeling better until you read a
really really good book and end up awake
at 2:00 a.m. this is true for me about
once a month reading before bed makes me
sleepy very quickly so it takes me a
while to get through even a short book
use the two minute rule at work can also
be one or five minute rule depending on
what job you have everything that can be
done in two minutes
do it immediately I get a lot of
questions daily some can be done fast
planned the longer ones for later don't
need to keep looking at a list and
wondering where to start or how to get
it done
helps me to keep focus clear my head and
work efficiently saying no it's
incredibly liberating to add to this my
dad gave me the advice that nine stroke
ten times you don't need to give an
explanation with your nose so many times
people feel they need to give one oh no
I can't go out tonight my wife is having
friends over tomorrow so we have to
clean the house blah blah blah you make
yourself feel guilty or even feel like
you need to lie he said it was
incredibly liberating to just say no I
can't tonight but thanks or no thank you
I'm okay double quote putting a
treadmill near the basement TV so many
calories burned just doing what I'd
normally do I also found that the length
of shows affected how long I could go
before getting tidal to saw if it was a
30-minute sitcom I'd be tired at the end
one hour police drama I could go an hour
I started making very small sports bets
on baseball and football games that
could often go two three hours and it
gave me something to be invested in at
the gym all my socks are the same brand
and cover trying to match socks after a
washes for suckers I did that a few
years ago after realizing I had 11
different kinds of socks and most of
them were raggedy bought two - twelve
packs of the same style gave the old
ones to my pet rats for bedding they're
all the same style so I don't have to
sort and pair them just dump them in a
bin and grabbed - saved a few minutes
here and there but also got rid of
something that was more annoying than
I'd realized every time I'm angry at
someone for something I try to give it
20 minutes before I say or do something
usually I cooled off or the situation
has been explained if not my argument
grievances articulated way better than
it would have been this hits closer to
home would definitely try this one it
wasn't easy at first
anger is a reflex so it takes conscious
effort to control yourself but there's
not better feeling than someone upon
judging to you before you bring up what
bugged you I started forcing myself to
say yes whenever asked for something I
was extremely depressed so anytime
someone asked me for help or to go out I
would immediately say no and just stay
at home alone now I say yes within
reason and have found that helping
others gives me so much satisfaction and
has helped pull me out of my depression
I really like the movie yes man with Jim
Carrey and it made me realize I needed
to be more accepting of opportunities
rather than my habitual or social self
still a work in progress you should read
the book it's even more crazy and funny
and was written by the guy who actually
did it himself drinking more water I
started drinking more water but nobody
warned me about how much more I'd pee my
god it's like the tap you can't turn off
same here
I drink caffeine in the morning than
water all day I pee a lot my friend
started calling me an old lady just now
I understand your pain can drink coffee
all day long without going in for a pit
stop but that first glass of water
breaks the dam you're dehydrated f
deleting my Facebook and Instagram app I
did it as my new year's resolution and I
can say the past four months without it
has moderately improved my life my first
week without it I didn't know what to do
with all the time I had on my hands it
was a strange feeling since then I have
started a gun learned how to crochet and
have read numerous books I think my
self-esteem has improved as well on
Facebook and Instagram you cannot scroll
through without seeing someone showing
off how great their life is here I'll
read it I really don't see any of that
from the subs I follow
I have a DD I have a great memory but
tend to get lost in thought meaning that
I'm not good at remembering things
unprompted the change I made is using my
phone as prosthetic memory I set
reminders for weekly tasks like taking
out the garbage it reminds me at
quitting time that I need to stop by the
hardware store on the way home the
notepad full of grocery needs reminds me
on grocery day that I need them the
calendar yells at me when something
important is coming up this weekend
this may sound really basic but it
wasn't until I had a smartphone that all
of this stuff was ER
in one place and be always at hand it
means that any I remember that there is
a thing what needs doing I can set it so
I remember that thing at the time it
needs to be done it's made me a much
more dependable person started using a
lab you need a budget to track my
finances I went from up I hope this
coffee isn't about to overdraft my
checking account not really sure what's
in there and I don't get paid until
Thursday to knowing how much I have at
any given time and even saving towards
the goals like vacation as opposed to my
prior system of just paying for vacation
on the credit card and thinking I'll and
pay that off later somehow double-quote
seriously if you're kind of a
disorganized person with your finances
like I was and if you ever over after
your checking account doing a budget
like this will really help you keeping
up with the genesis was pointless I
stopped wanting things for the sake of
having stuff stopped worrying about
things I didn't really care about and
stopped pretending to be someone I am
NOT it's great because I have so much
more mental energy to care about what I
really care about and much more money
than I would if I was buying pointless
junk to impress people buying a PC
before I had a good powerful PC I felt
useless after I built mine I almost
instantly realized that how I really
enjoy video editing game development
programming and a whole slew of other
things
my computer has had a huge influence on
my life in a really positive way I
stopped making fun of people for just
living their life I know it sounds
stupid but it was a major turning point
in my life I was about twenty six and
one day I was riding the train home
annoyed that this person was wearing
bright yellow pants then I thought to
myself why does this bother me it
literally doesn't affect my life at all
if those pants make them feel confident
good for them why am I wasting energy
caring about this it was like a restiess
eh flipped
I just stopped criticizing people even
if it was just in my head
not to say I don't slip up but it was a
surprisingly easy change to make
honestly I feel so much better I tend to
be a more positive happy person and have
felt just this weight lifted I can't
even listen to other people do it now it
brings me down for example I used to
love Fashion Police but now I can't
stomach it investing in a good mattress
I actually sleep through the night now
because I don't wake up due to pain
discomfort
I even fall asleep faster because I
don't have to spend so long trying to
get comfortable I honestly didn't even
realize how bad my old mattress was
until I got the new one learning how to
detail dry specific goals objectives
timelines ways to measure points of
success visualizing what success would
look like at its conclusion actively
believing that I would achieve success
knowing that persistence is required and
makes success possible I've achieved
every goal I have assets using this
method it works
barring some exterior catastrophe
uncannily enough most of this was
printed on a coffee cup someone gave me
getting my DNA tested and finding out
that I have a gene mutation that makes
me resistance to sleep deprivation and
that six hours of sleep is normal for me
I've spent the last 20 years trying to
trick my body into eight hours of sleep
thinking that's what I needed so much
less pressure now edited to add I feel
like an now I poked all around
23andme and could not find any reference
to this in any of my health reports so I
went through all the surveys that I took
and found one reference a high
percentage of people that matched your
answers have a mutation that makes them
resistance to sleep deprivation
something along those lines I searched
online and it sounds like it's a
mutation of the second of December Gein
which 23andme doesn't test for so not
confirmed but suspected by 23andme who
doesn't test for that so they must be
pulling about information from a
different data source I looked around
and can't find a lab lab test
specifically for that mutation but I'm
going to ask a friend of mine who is a
geneticist
will update if I get more info jogging
getting up early and going for a run
leaves you feeling great all day and
then you're less likely to eat that bag
of crisps or that chocolate bar because
you look at the something with 300
calories in it and suddenly think that
would undo about 20 minutes of my run
double-quote started to make my bed
every day I heard a speech on this by
starting your day with something you'd
read think of what you can achieve after
changed my perspective completely simply
making my bed makes a huge difference in
my day getting out of my room I had to
move back home for this semester of
school and got into a bad habit of never
leaving my room except for food and
class now I'll leave my room for
everything from working on homework or
watching Netflix I feel much happier and
less trapped in my day-to-day life when
anyone asks me to hang out I say yes it
doesn't matter if I don't want to go it
doesn't matter if I want to sleep it
doesn't matter if I want to do anything
else I've found that I've really helped
some friendships grow where a lot of
other people seem to be losing friends
out of their life as things get busy if
you want friends make the effort always
say yes and always go to everything
you're invited
to cooking my own food instead of going
out to eat not only do you save money
you'd feel much more accomplished
cooking your food I don't mean to toot
my own horn but I never realized that I
could cook up a mean pan-seared salmon
or carbonara pasta I colored my hair
neon purple two days ago the confidence
boost has been amazing I'm disabled my
whole life people have looked at me and
smiled I'm the kind of person who always
thinks the best of people so I never saw
the most pitying smiles till now the
smiles have changed people arrant
looking down at my wheelchair and
smiling sadly they're looking up at my
hair and grinning widely I walk into
stores and want to pull my hood down I
smile wider and I find myself looking at
shiny things in the stores with more
confidence
I feel more able to be myself seriously
if you've always wanted crazy hair go do
it hundred and eighty bucks including
the Colorstay shampoo but 100% worth it
letting go of simple stresses that
shouldn't stress you out such as getting
bent out of shape over the news
extra personal stuff for more than a few
minutes it was like clearing the malware
out of my brain
I just think faster and smoother when I
don't overthink inconsequential things
like how I'm gonna word this comment a
great quote gave me a new insight on my
day-to-day activities let's say you have
a bank account with $86 400 in it and
someone was able to steal ten dollars
out of it
would rather spend the rest of the $86
390 just he gets the $10 back or just
lets the $10.00 go there are 86400
seconds in everyday don't let someone
who ruins 10 seconds of your day ruin
the entire day for you making a
conscious effort to try and be more
positive I'm quite cynical and I've
recently tried to be optimistic positive
rather than leaping to the worst
conclusions I do this by making a list
of potent
your solutions when I have a problem
rather than just Welling on the fact it
happened if I'm having a bad day and
people ask how I am I don't reel off all
the bad stuff so I just say I'm not
having a great day but I think it'll get
better and ask how they are instead I
pick out good things and try to learn
from stuff when it goes wrong rather
than just feeling I failed it's been
quite tough but I do feel happier and
more hopeful it's not a fix all for all
my problems but it's really helped
adjust my attitude set yourself a
personal letter of going to bed every
night being a better person than you
were when you woke up stick to it and be
serious about it look for things in your
daily life you can improve and always
try to do good for your life the people
around you and the world it's a change
as simple as asking what goals did I
accomplish today and how did I make my
life for the world a better place when
you don't have an answer you need to
make one tomorrow
stop drinking booze one week ago I was
drinking nearly 750 milliliters a day I
was sick for days but I already feel
better about myself
edit still on the wagon my friends thank
you all so much for the support I woke
up this morning and felt great like my
new life has started and I can do
anything I am going to keep this up hey
I'm glad you did that but stopping
drinking at that amount which is where I
was can be lethal you can get strokes
seizures etc from stopping drinking cold
turkey I know a guy who quit cold turkey
went out for a drive had a seizure and
plowed his car into the back of a truck
0% blood alcohol 100% dead those can not
only kill you when you're drinking it it
can kill you after you stop get medical
advice when stopping thanks for your
concern I have been consulting my doctor
through this whole process so I feel
pretty safe I have been so tempted
though as I live near so many liquor
stores
have even had very vivid dreams every
night last week a guzzling whiskey it
was just time to stop before it kills my
career or well me getting up early like
5:00 or 5:30 and putting some time into
exercising like planks or jogging this
makes my day better and gives a fresh
start getting up at 6:30 is torturous
for me even after getting seven stroke
eight hours of sleep what are your tips
for getting up so early without wanting
to cry edit thanks for all the advice
three I never snooze my alarm and always
get up on the first ring I just can't
bear that instant oomph of exhaustion
the moment I open my eyes from the
moment I wake up I'm already fantasizing
about going back to bed and after nap
when I get home from work just to stay
awake until a normal bedtime I have orig
about seven five hours sleep per night
and I've tried all sorts but I can never
shake that torturous waking up sensation
that lasts all day sometimes my body's
ideal wake up time is around 8 a.m. but
sadly work and life don't allow for such
luxury making a habit of tracking my
calories 7 months ago I was 305 pounds
and now I'm 239 - 241 on my way to a
goal weight of 180 pounds
I've tried special diets and all the
kinds of exercise but I mostly end up
stopping about a month or two into it
now I eat what I wanted but I just eat
less of it I started at 240 and got to
my goal of 180 for a while fell back to
190 but have been there for a few years
at least I was shocked to see just how
much I was eating without realizing it I
stopped the calorie counting after a
year or so of doing it now I feel like I
have a much better idea of portion sides
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